Wedding Day Struggles and Advice According to your Enneagram

If you’re a one… 

You may struggle with making sure everything is perfect. But no wedding day goes exactly as you plan it to. Having to adapt to constant changes may lead to a lot of stress, especially when everything doesn’t seem to be working. If you find yourself worrying about your day, just remember – a wedding is about the people you’re with. And make sure to hire a wedding planner!

If you’re a two…

You care so much about other people, you may end up accommodating their opinions too much. Remember that your wedding is your special day, and you are the one who gets to choose everything (not your mom or your friends). Make sure to choose the decorations that you love! It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. 

Photo by Josh Rigsby Photography

If you’re a three… 

Like twos, you  tend to care a lot about what others think. You may find yourself choosing a venue or a dress simply because you think your friends would be impressed. But your wedding day is not about how awesome everyone thinks you are! Remember to make decisions based on what you really want, not just what you think others would like. 

If you’re a four…

You love being unique. It’s likely very important to you that your wedding is different from everyone else’s. Like twos and threes, you also might need to remember that your wedding day is about you, not your friends or anyone else. Unique weddings can be so much fun, but make sure you’re doing what you really want – not just the opposite of everyone else. 

If you’re a five… 

You tend to be very independent, so wedding planning may be a struggle for you. Dealing with everyone’s opinions, and having to talk to so many different vendors might be really draining for you. Remember to take some time for yourself everyday to get away from all the craziness. And if you don’t want to deal with any of it… you can always elope!

If you’re a six… 

You might struggle with making decisions and tend to look to others for guidance. This may be the easy option in the short term, but when it comes to your wedding day, you might feel like it’s not even yours. There’s nothing wrong with talking to friends and family about their opinions, but make sure to form your own opinion before making any decisions. 

Photo by Jessie Modlin Photography

If you’re a seven…

You probably don’t enjoy long-term planning. You may struggle with staying motivated to plan your own wedding, so remember that you can ask for help! Definitely hire a wedding planner to keep you on track and don’t be afraid to ask friends or family for help if you’re really struggling. This way, you can have fun thinking of ideas, and other people can bring them to life!

If you’re an eight… 

You tend to have very strong opinions, and may have difficulty working with people. Although  it’s so good to stand up for yourself, some plans are going to have to change. Remember that nothing happens exactly how you plan it, and that’s okay! Don’t forget to delegate at least some tasks, so you don’t end up with the stress of doing everything yourself.  

Photo by Jessie Modlin Photography

If you’re a nine… 

Making decisions is certainly not your strongest trait, so wedding planning may be a challenge. Like sixes, you often prefer to let others decide things for you. But your wedding day is your day! You may be perfectly fine letting someone else handle all the specifics for you, but try to really take time and think about what you want. Even if it’s just a few things, make sure you stay strong in what you want.

 

Written by Emma Brandt

Third Time’s the Charm: A Rescheduled COVID-19 Wedding

Imagine planning your wedding for over a year, spending hundreds of hours picking out floral arrangements and bridesmaids dresses and decorations, only to be forced to postpone this carefully organized day… twice! Imagine the excitement and relief when you can finally have your dream wedding a year later.

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COVID-19 has been hard on everyone these past few years, including those who had been planning for a wedding. Jenna and Todd wanted to have their wedding over a year ago, but because of COVID complications, they weren’t able to get married until last Sunday.

They had planned to have their ceremony outside, in the beautiful courtyard, but of course there was a tropical storm! Fortunately, because The Rutherford has space for both an indoor and outdoor ceremony, they were able to hold out hope for a sunny wedding until the day before. Even though it ended up being inside, the decorations and florals were still stunning, and the brick walls made a perfect background for all their photos.

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Weddings never go as planned, and this one was no exception. But no matter how many plans we had to change, their wedding day was still magical and seamless. We were able to be flexible and accommodate everything that came up, and everyone appreciated having both an indoor and outdoor option. At The Rutherford, there’s nothing that we love more than making everything as perfect as possible for our couples on their special day. Flexibility, especially now, is one of our most important roles.

 

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Planner: Jennifer Dennis Monts – Love This Little City Events

Floral: Greg Foster

Music: DJ Tambition

Baker: Chelle Chelles

Bar: Southern Libations

Catering: Mike & Jeff’s BBQ

Photographer: Kelli McAbee

 

Written by Emma Brandt

The Newlywed Report

We’re taking a look at all the things that lead up to your big day, straight from Wedding Wire’s 2020 Newlywed Report. Check on all the facts and figures and see how you compare to others!

The Love Birds

Based on 25,000 couples married in 2019, here’s what we know about our married couples to-be⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

  • 71% date 2+ years before getting engaged⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
  • 88% have spoken about future finances⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
  • 41% have traveled outside of the US together⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
  • 27% own a home together⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
  • 49% have a pet together⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
  • 27% grew up in different regions of the country⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
  • 1 in 4 met online⠀⠀

The Rutherford | Industrial Wedding Venue

Prep + Planning

And since many of you are in the planning stages of your wedding, we’re breaking down what goes into it for couples all across the country!

  • Nearly 60% of couples increase their budgets along the way
  • 79% of couple use a wedding website to share details with their guests⠀⠀
  • On average, couples hire 15 vendors for their wedding day
  • 88% of planning is done online
  • The top wedding date for 2019 was October 19⠀

And on the Big Day

  • 46% of couples had a “first look” before the ceremony
  • 38% wrote personal letters to each other
  • 91% had a first dance
  • 36% asked for guests to “unplug” during the ceremony⠀

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Any SURPRISES? Show of hands—how many of our engaged couples are the majority of these true for them?

When is the best or worst time to take your wedding day photos?!

We L O V E looking at wedding photos, especially when they have beautiful outdoor backgrounds and natural lighting that really showcase the couple and the wedding gown. It is natural for brides to be nervous taking their photos! When is the best time of day to take them? Where should they take their photos? Indoors or outdoors? What if it rains? What if it’s too hot or cold? There are a lot of scary thoughts when it comes to taking your wedding photos, especially with unknown weather, so don’t worry if any of these questions have come to mind! We personally are big fans of photos during golden hour and sunset! However, there is plenty of solid advice that photographers can provide on the best lighting and environment to achieve your ideal photos, depending on when and where your wedding is. We enjoyed reading this article about recommendations for the ideal time and way to get the beautiful wedding photos you deserve and desire! Read more on here!

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Photo by Emily Bolt Photography

Make your special day cozy!

Looking to make your wedding more cozy and welcoming rather than stressful? Try planning your wedding with day-of cozy aspects to make everyone feel relaxed! From hot cocoa bars to decorative rugs, there are plenty of ways to give your wedding a calm vibe. This article gives great suggestions on how to keep the aesthetic of your wedding while also allowing everyone, especially the bride (YOU!), to stay relaxed and happy.

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Photography by Angela Zion

How to blend traditional and modern looks for your wedding day!

Most brides know what vibe they want their wedding to give off, especially when they are looking for a more traditional or classic look. However, sometimes you just want to spice up your wedding and give it a personal flair, while still maintaining the traditionality. We believe that is totally possible! There are plenty of ways that you can protect the classic wedding atmosphere AND add your own modern-day personality. Want to know how? Read this article for some simple ideas to modernize your wedding decor while also keeping it traditional!

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Have you posted your engagement selfie?

Tired of the same old engagement selfie? So are we! Instead, we would love to see people incorporate their own personal touches and aim to be as creative as possible in taking pictures of their engagement ring and sharing their big news. There’s so many distinct ways to set yourself apart from the norm and show off your bling in fun new way! If you are looking for some unique ideas for sharing your big news, then we recommend checking out this article!

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