Wedding Day Struggles and Advice According to your Enneagram

If you’re a one… 

You may struggle with making sure everything is perfect. But no wedding day goes exactly as you plan it to. Having to adapt to constant changes may lead to a lot of stress, especially when everything doesn’t seem to be working. If you find yourself worrying about your day, just remember – a wedding is about the people you’re with. And make sure to hire a wedding planner!

If you’re a two…

You care so much about other people, you may end up accommodating their opinions too much. Remember that your wedding is your special day, and you are the one who gets to choose everything (not your mom or your friends). Make sure to choose the decorations that you love! It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. 

Photo by Josh Rigsby Photography

If you’re a three… 

Like twos, you  tend to care a lot about what others think. You may find yourself choosing a venue or a dress simply because you think your friends would be impressed. But your wedding day is not about how awesome everyone thinks you are! Remember to make decisions based on what you really want, not just what you think others would like. 

If you’re a four…

You love being unique. It’s likely very important to you that your wedding is different from everyone else’s. Like twos and threes, you also might need to remember that your wedding day is about you, not your friends or anyone else. Unique weddings can be so much fun, but make sure you’re doing what you really want – not just the opposite of everyone else. 

If you’re a five… 

You tend to be very independent, so wedding planning may be a struggle for you. Dealing with everyone’s opinions, and having to talk to so many different vendors might be really draining for you. Remember to take some time for yourself everyday to get away from all the craziness. And if you don’t want to deal with any of it… you can always elope!

If you’re a six… 

You might struggle with making decisions and tend to look to others for guidance. This may be the easy option in the short term, but when it comes to your wedding day, you might feel like it’s not even yours. There’s nothing wrong with talking to friends and family about their opinions, but make sure to form your own opinion before making any decisions. 

Photo by Jessie Modlin Photography

If you’re a seven…

You probably don’t enjoy long-term planning. You may struggle with staying motivated to plan your own wedding, so remember that you can ask for help! Definitely hire a wedding planner to keep you on track and don’t be afraid to ask friends or family for help if you’re really struggling. This way, you can have fun thinking of ideas, and other people can bring them to life!

If you’re an eight… 

You tend to have very strong opinions, and may have difficulty working with people. Although  it’s so good to stand up for yourself, some plans are going to have to change. Remember that nothing happens exactly how you plan it, and that’s okay! Don’t forget to delegate at least some tasks, so you don’t end up with the stress of doing everything yourself.  

Photo by Jessie Modlin Photography

If you’re a nine… 

Making decisions is certainly not your strongest trait, so wedding planning may be a challenge. Like sixes, you often prefer to let others decide things for you. But your wedding day is your day! You may be perfectly fine letting someone else handle all the specifics for you, but try to really take time and think about what you want. Even if it’s just a few things, make sure you stay strong in what you want.

 

Written by Emma Brandt

Trimming Your Guest List

Weddings are expensive! From food to flowers and drinks to decorations, costs add up very quickly. You want the day to reflect everything that’s important to you but also not break the bank. So how to keep costs lower and stress less about your bid day?

Consider trimming down your guest lists!

Everyone from your parents to your future in-laws to your siblings have opinions on who to invite, but ultimately, it’s up to you to decide who you want to celebrate with and whose presence means the most to you and your partner.

We have some tips for trimming down your guest list below!

 

  1. Make sure that you and your partner are on the same page and stick to the rules you make! This is the only rule there is!

 

  1. Have an “A” list and “B” list. Go ahead and send out your invites to those you must have at your wedding. If you receive around 10-20% regrets, start to send out more invitations to those who you’d still love to have (colleagues, more distant friends), but didn’t make the first round for whatever reason.

 

  1. If you or your significant other has never met them before [hello your parents’ friends!], consider not sending an invitation. Especially if you are the one footing the bill for the wedding.

 

  1. Don’t feel like you own anyone an invitation. Haven’t spoken to them in three years? Don’t worry about it! They invited you to their wedding but you’re no longer close? It’s okay!

 

  1. Keep the guest list of adults only! And don’t feel bad about it—it’s your wedding, and while your cousin on your mom’s side might be upset, feel free to call and explain your decision.

 

  1. Only send out plus ones to those who are married, engaged, or are in a committed relationship. You might even take the stress off of singles who would feel the need to bring a date.

 

Whatever you do decide to do, your wedding is about celebrating the love between you and your significant other! We’d love to hear how you strategized your guest list!

xx The Rutherford Team

3 Ways to Keep Guests Entertained During Your Reception

One wedding trend that we’re excited to see continue into 2020 is reception entertainment. While dancing is still the highlight of the evening, it’s fun to change it up and add in a few extras to spice up the night!

A Few of Our Favorites

Photo Booth

Help your guests remember the night with a photo booth! Selfie booths have become popular in the past few years and you can either have printed or digital options for your guest to keep. Customize it even more with a frame or filter just for your night!

DiPietro Photography

Interactive Food Station

Guests take their food seriously, especially if a long night of dancing and celebrating are ahead. Interactive and customizable food always excite and amuse people.

Some of our favorite caterers have A-MAZ-ING food options

  • Good Life Catering offers a made-to-order grilled cheese station and a liquid nitrogen ice cream sundae bar!
  • Chef 360 has a Mashed and Smashed Potato Bar.
  • And if you’re in the mood for pizza, Coastal Crust uses their food truck at weddings—which we love to see in our courtyard!
The Rutherford | Interactive Food
DiPietro Photography

Late Night Food

Keep people happy with late-night food. Pizza, French fries, and doughnuts are all popular options. Bringing your favorite food is also another way to add a unique touch to your wedding (Bite Squad delivery?) Maybe even throw in a coffee bar so people have the energy to keep dancing all night long!

For some incredible local options, check out Chef 306’s After Burner menu. Yes, you read that right—breakfast for dinner!

The Rutherford | Late Night Bites

What are you thinking about serving for your wedding?

– Audrey

Selfies with Brides

One of the fun traditions the owner of the Rutherford, Yasha has, is taking selfies with every bride!

In general, Yasha is pretty much the selfie queen. So it’s no surprise that when the Rutherford opened two years ago, Yasha started a tradition of taking selfies with all of the brides.

During the Rutherford’s first wedding season, Kaycee Hines’ wedding kicked off the month of May. It was only natural that she and Kaycee took a photo together.

From there, it just took off as a must-do on our event checklist. If Yasha knows she can’t be at the actual wedding, she’ll take on with couples during a planning meeting the week before. 

We love to become a part of a couple’s story and see all the planning and fun they have on their wedding day, and think of these selfies as a way to reminisce on all the excitement from their event.

Two Years at the Rutherford

Two. Years.

We’ve loved being a part of the Greenville community for these past two years. Building memories, creating events, and establishing relationships and partnerships across different fields. It’s hard to believe that it’s only been two years because it feels like we’ve been doing this forever.

A lot has changed since we first opened our doors in 2017. Over these past two years, we’ve grown to have a full-time sales director who is just as excited about the Rutherford and everything that we do. We’ve also developed an internship program to help college students in figuring out their career paths. Our team is one that is passionate about helping clients host the best event, and we couldn’t be more thankful for that. We thrive off of client feedback and are always working as a team to make our venue a better space.

One of our favorite parts of the whole experience is seeing all of the different brides and what they do with the space. We’re always inspired by each event and every way they change and transform our space for the evening. No two events are ever the same, and that’s what we love so much about this job—the ever-changing, fast-paced, and inspiring environment.

The Rutherford | Industrial Event Space

Thank you for being a part of The Rutherford’s story. And for helping us to build this community right here in Greenville.

We wouldn’t want it any other way.

The Rutherford Logo—Explained

The Rutherford Logo—Explained

Have you ever wondering what our logo means—and why it means so much to us?

When designing our logo, we wanted to highlight the three spaces that define the Rutherford and all the events we can host because of them.

Not only does the R stand for Rutherford, but the three different parts of our R logo represent the three different spaces that we have at our venue—the Brick Room, the Warehouse, and the Courtyard.

The Brick Room is our upstairs spaces and features the original hardwood floors and plenty of windows for natural light.

Downstairs is our Warehouse, which we’ve seen transformed into dance floors, reception dinners, and cocktails hours.

Stepping outside of the Warehouse will lead you to the Courtyard, which might be one of our favorites for dancing under the lights or daytime parties.

The Rutherford | Brick Wedding Venue

We’re always so excited to offer our clients three unique spaces when it comes to planning their events. The brick room, warehouse, and courtyard are all customizable to each event and offer a plethora of opportunities to design with and around.

Let us know how our spaces could help you plan your next event!

– AR

Courtyard – Spotlight

Our best kept secret.  The Rutherford Courtyard.

We’re a little biased, but our outdoor space is our favorite—especially this time of the year! From wedding ceremonies to the reception, there are so many ways we’ve seen the space utilized and wanted to share a few of our favorites.

Continue reading “Courtyard – Spotlight”

The Rutherford – Quick Tips for Photo Ops

With all of the different elements at the Rutherford, photos can be taken in the style that fits your aesthetic.

Brick Room Windows

A fan-favorite spot for stunning and elegant photos is in our upstairs brick room. With the original hardwood floors, a brick backdrop, and tons of natural light from the almost-floor-to-ceiling windows, it’s no wonder that so many brides choose to have their photos taken here.

Brick Venue
Red Apple Tree Photography

Under the Lights

One of our favorite parts of receptions is when couples sneak away for a few shots under the lights. There’s just something about that post-wedding glow that makes these photos even more special and intimate.

Courtyard Bridal couple
Mathew Pautz Photography

The Greenery Wall

Our green wall is one of the most versatile spots for photo-ops! We’ve seen it used as a cake table background, an accent wall, and a place for some of those first kisses. Seeing how clients customize it always inspires us!

wedding cake table
Emily Bolt Photography

 

Be sure to ask our planning team for ideas for your special day!

AR

The Herticas + Their Sweet Day

On May 18th, 2018, I got to experience working my first wedding at the Rutherford.  I arrived at the venue while the reception was still being set up and managed to catch a glimpse of the decorations before the guests began to arrive. This couple’s vibe was very classically southern.

First Impressions

The Herticas are high school sweethearts, and the great thing about this wedding  was that whether or not you knew them well, you could figure this out on your own. For the cocktail hour, they placed several tall tables around the bar.  On each table sat a picture frame holding a photo of a memory from their relationship.  From their high school prom, to their first vacation, to when they bought their first house, they wanted to allow their guests to see as many special moments from their relationship as possible.

It’s all in the details.

I loved all of the small personal details that they incorporated into the space. They created personalized street signs with their names on them to say “Jake Junction” and “Tara Trail” that sat at the entrance of the dining room. Instead of a guest book they placed a wooden letter “H” on a table and placed a sign above it that said “Sign our love letter”. This was one of the many examples of them taking traditions and giving them cute twists. They chose a 1955 Chevrolet truck that had been converted into a wood fire pizza kitchen to cater their reception. They wanted the children attending the reception to have something to play with, so they attached bells, ribbon, and lace to wooden sticks for the children to wave around while dancing.

Coastal Crust Pizza
Coastal Crust Pizza

Standing Out.

The most unique thing about this wedding was the groom’s cake. The bride and groom’s favorite place to eat was Hooter’s, and they wanted to find a way to incorporate this into their wedding day. One of the ways they did this was by having Hooter’s cater wings to their reception, the other was by dedicating the groom’s cake to the restaurant. The groom’s cake was made at Couture Cakes, and was shaped like the body of a Hooter’s girl and was wearing a Hooter’s uniform. This was a very creative way to include one of their shared interests on their wedding day. One of my favorite touches was their tribute to their lost loved ones. They dedicated a table to the family members that had passed too soon to see them wed. There were pictures of these family members scattered on top of the table, with a plaque in the middle that read “We know you’d be here today if heaven weren’t so far away.”

The Groom’s Cake

This wedding was a wonderful, family-friendly event. It definitely had a sweet and intimate vibe. It was truly an honor to be involved in the Hertica’s special day, and this experience has definitely left me excited for the next time I get to work on a wedding. 

Best, 

KV